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From Stuck to Unstoppable: The Art of Unlearning for Moms

Embrace September as Your Fresh Start

September – it's more than just a month; it's a chance for a fresh start. As busy moms caught up in the whirlwind of life, it often feels like we're stuck in a rut. We yearn for change, to become a better version of ourselves, to pursue our dreams, and to enhance our relationships. The allure of a second chance, a clean slate, and the promise of personal growth is incredibly exciting. But here's the catch: achieving these dreams requires a profound change within us, a transformation in how we think, feel, and act.

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Shattering the "Impossible 4-Minute Mile" of Beliefs

Have you ever paused to ponder what's been holding you back? What are those habits and habitual thoughts that you've mindlessly followed day after day? It's time to identify these patterns and routines that no longer serve us. Much like Roger Bannister, who shattered the "impossible" 4-minute mile, our own limiting beliefs act as invisible barriers to our potential. Just as Bannister's record was swiftly broken once the mental barrier was shattered, we, too, can overcome our limits.

Example: As a mom, you've always believed that you're not a "morning person." Waking up early seems impossible with your family's hectic morning routine. However, inspired by the story of Roger Bannister breaking the 4-minute mile, you decide to challenge this belief, and you start thinking that maybe you can become a "morning person." You start waking up just 15 minutes earlier each day, gradually building up to an hour. Surprisingly, you find that you can become a morning person after all, and this newfound time transforms your mornings.

Listening to Your Body's Whispers

Our limiting beliefs often dwell deep within our subconscious, making them elusive to change. But our bodies have a way of communicating with us, and it's time we start paying attention. Tension, discomfort, and anxiety – these physical sensations are often signals that something in our lives, perhaps a belief or habit, is no longer serving us. Our bodies are trying to tell us something important; we need to listen, just as a gardener listens to the rustling leaves for signs of growth.

Shedding the Baggage of the Past

Unlearning is a powerful concept. It's about shedding the baggage we've carried for too long – those beliefs and habits that have become comfortable but hold us back. When we unlearn these limiting beliefs, we grant ourselves permission to evolve and grow in ways we couldn't have imagined. It's like shedding an old, heavy backpack full of doubts and fears, making way for the lightness of possibility and transformation.

Example: You've carried the belief that you're not a "good enough" mom because your kids don't do well at school and sometimes are disrespectful. You decide to loosen up your belief and notice that your children's actions and behaviors are not the best way to measure how good of a mom you are, but your own. Furthermore, after sitting with the old belief, you decide that your worth doesn't change according to your behavior either. You are born 100, and nothing you do or don't do can change that.

Leaving Behind the Pillar of Salt

In the biblical story of Lot's wife, we find a valuable lesson. She was explicitly instructed not to look back, yet she did, and she was turned into a pillar of salt. This story carries a profound message for us today. Are we willing to leave our old selves behind – the habits, beliefs, and thought patterns that no longer serve us – to create a new, improved, and better version of ourselves? Much like turning away from a past that no longer defines us, our journey of transformation requires that we step boldly into the unknown.

The Opportunity of a New Academic Year

As this new academic year begins, let's seize the opportunity to unlearn what's holding us back. Let's challenge our old beliefs and habitual thoughts, tune in to the signals our bodies are sending, and bravely step out of our comfort zones. By doing so, we can move forward unencumbered by the past and become the better versions of ourselves we aspire to be. Remember, September is not just a month; it's a chance for a fresh start, a second chance to become the person we truly want to be.


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